In Sanity Blog
|Posted on April 12, 2015 at 12:30 AM|
Will You Rise to the Challenge?
Change is not something most people embrace. We are used to our particular ways and when things become rearranged, or different we balk. Sometimes we throw a downright hissy fit. Have you ever done that before?
When I first realized I was entering the dreaded menopause years, I panicked. I still remember my own grandmother and how everyone thought she’d gone off the deep end. My heart breaks for her now as I realize the stigma that followed the dreaded M word. She had no help or understanding, impatience and accusations from others became her daily torture. She was angry and out of control and no one would talk to her about it. She was expected to rein it in and if she didn’t she was considered weak. I was only a little girl at the time, but I remember other’s not so kind references toward her.
I am so glad that I live in a day and age where it is not unheard of to talk about menopause, let alone write a book about it. It is acknowledged as real and the symptoms genuine. Still, there are a lot of men who don’t fully understand and when their wives seem to go a little crazy, they go as well, out of the marriage that is. They take it personally.
Although, not as taboo as it used to be, there is still a stigma attached to it. Women feel the pressure of middle age and start reminiscing about earlier days and better times. Nostalgia kicks in big time. Fear enters the picture. Fear of what we haven’t accomplished, the mistakes we’ve made, of losing our looks, and of being rendered unneeded and useless. I heard the statement on TV just today, when asked about fearing unwanted attention, a woman replies, “No one notices a middle aged woman, I’m invisible.”
Is that how you feel? Do you feel invisible? Left behind? Is there a small (or large) amount of bitterness welling up inside of you over lost opportunities and unfulfilled dreams? My friend, you have it all wrong. There has never been more opportunities for the middle-aged woman, than there are today. You are only invisible if you choose to be.
But is that really the issue? If we spend our time worrying about who is noticing us and who isn’t, then we have forgotten what we are here on this earth for. It is not to bring glory to myself, but to the Savior, to the King of all kings, to the one who died for me on that dreaded Good Friday. He is what it is all about.
Janet Pascal sings a beautiful song titled, “It’s Not About Now,” and truly it isn’t. Remembering this should ignite a fire within us unlike anything ever before experienced. The now of today is what we accomplish for Him at this moment and time in our lives. It is our eternal legacy.
In order to live the life God intends for us, we can’t sit around and whine about being invisible, we must stand up and go, just as Matthew 28:19-20 commands, “Go ye therefore, and teach all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost; teaching them to observe all things whatsoever I have commanded you: and, lo, I am with you always, even unto the end of the world.” Why is it we don’t really pay attention to this until we’ve “matured?”
Maturity is not a time to “live it up,” or “let it all hang out,” now that my kids are raised and I have free time. It’s a time to become focused on what is most important. Hopefully, for you, that is pleasing God and doing His will.
It hit me pretty hard when I realized I was entering the “Change,” I searched for help. Because I was so young, the doctors wouldn’t listen to me. I searched for devotionals, there were none and then it hit me, my purpose, my reason for being at this moment in time, is to help others like myself. Others seeking guidance and acceptance when their world seems to be falling apart. I started writing and didn’t stop until “For Sanity’s Sake” was completed. If it doesn’t help anyone else, it helped me through a very difficult time. It was my lifeline. I hope as you read it, it has the same affect on you.
Still, God wants you to do more than read a book. Where are you going to make your mark for Eternity’s Sake? You’ve raised your kids, fulfilled obligations, now you think your work is done. I’ve got news for you. It’s just beginning. What is God placing on your heart? You are NOT just some middle-aged invisible woman, you are a cherished child of the God of this Universe and He has big plans for you—if you allow Him to use you.
Write me and let me know what God has put on your heart. How can I help? Can I pray for you? With you? Yes, it’s scary. But this can be the most exciting time in your life. And the difference you can make for the Kingdom’s sake is magnanimous if you just “Go.”
The first devotion in my book is titled, “Bring on the New.” Are you ready for the new? Isaiah 42:9 says, “Behold, the former things have come to pass, and new things I declare; before they spring forth I tell you of them.” The onset of menopause symptoms signifies the passing of former things and the declaration of something new.
God has no intention of allowing you to rock your way into eternity. The refining fires of menopause will only strengthen you for the journey ahead. God has great things in store for you. What they are, only He knows; whether you will rise to the challenge is entirely up to you.
The future is not something to fear, but something to spring into with great anticipation and excitement for what is to come. Go out and “raise the roof” for God. I’ll be praying for you!
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